TIP 46. HAVING FUN WITH YOUR KIDS
I think it’s worth mentioning that we as ‘a father’ should have an over-all goal pertaining to what we want to achieve as a dad. This should include but not be limited to the type of dad we want to become and most importantly how we want our child’s life to eventually turn out. Everything we do as a father should have an over-all motivation of strengthening our relationship with our child, and having fun with our kids is one of the most effective ways to strengthen that bond.
Raising children may sometimes feel like it's a chore, but if we learn to enjoy their company more it can become a pleasure to be a parent. If your child could pick just a few words to describe you as a father what would those words be?
Some children may say ‘my dad is strict‘, others ‘my dad goes to the gym‘, while still others may say ‘my dad travels for work’. None of these areas identified are wrong in themselves and each of them have a place in life, but I put it to you that they should not be the primary way we are identified by our child.
The reason for that is because ‘being strict‘, ‘going to the gym‘ or ‘travelling for work‘ don’t actually strengthen your relational bond with your child, as these descriptions can be spoken without a sense of joy and love by your child. These statements can often be perceived as an explanation defining a reason why the relationship between you isn’t really very close. These statements are ‘impersonal’ and there is no emotional attachment that comes with them.
However if you child’s response to the question above was ‘my dad loves me‘ or ‘my dad reads bedtime stories to me‘ or ‘my dad is lots of fun‘, then it is easy to understand that these responses describe a relational bond that is strong and growing stronger. Many successful fathers are known primarily by their children as being fun to be around.
In our modern world many men’s lives are so structured by work commitments that every aspect of it is written in their diary and every minute accounted for religiously. If this is an accurate description of your life, you should not be surprised if it seems to resemble that of ‘a robot’ a little more than that of a ‘human being’ in the eyes of a child. Whatever we as ‘the father’ choose as being important is being observed by little eyes and registered in little hearts, and they are evaluating where they personally fit into your busy schedule and how important they are to you.
It is for this reason that we must look closely at our own lifestyle choices and be open to make corrections when they are needed. As a father we need to show our children/family that they are our greatest priority in life and not just another scheduled meeting in our diary.
Dads' Call To Action:
Make sure you allocate time to turn off all your commitments and just enjoy the company of your children. The bond you create is worth much more than the money you could make.
(Mark 10 v 16)
And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them.