TIP 15. INDIVIDUAL TIME
It is important to realise that as we are raising children each of your children are unique, with individual needs and desires. Most of the time a father has to deal with issues as a family, using the broad brush approach, and the decisions made effect the whole family. However there are times when each child needs your attention solely, and alone. Whether we are parenting boys or parenting girls we need to understand that each of our children looks to us as their father for leadership, encouragement and security.
Time spent alone with a loving father can become some of the most enduring memories a child can have. They can also be a wonderful opportunity to impart wisdom and understanding to the child at a deeper and more personal level.
One of these times can be at bed time for the children, as you as the father take a few minutes with each child tucking them in, telling them stories, praying with them or merely discussing the days events with them. Having 'Dad' there when they are about to go to sleep also adds an extra dimension of security in a young child's heart.
Some fathers also take their children out 'individually' to sports events or breakfast at McDonald's etc, just to be able to show the child that they are important as an individual and not 'just another member' of the family. These simple actions can really help to boost a child's self esteem or sense of self worth.
Dads' Call To Action:
Set aside a little time each day for each of your children individually, and try to take them somewhere special from time to time.
(Proverbs 1 v 8-9)
8 My son, hear the instruction of your father,
And do not forsake the law of your mother;
9 For they will be a graceful ornament on your head,
And chains about your neck.