TIP 49. TRAILBLAZING
As fathers we need to choose a parenting plan or parenting style that we are confident will help and not hinder our family future, but what if we never had a great role model to learn from ourselves? For many men, the concepts and teachings contained in this series may seem like a mountain that is too hard to climb, because of the baggage they still carry from their own upbringing. For those men especially I am writing this teaching, in the hope that you can find some real encouragement in your hearts.
Every man in this nation has been brought up in one way or another, some have had a tremendous upbringing in a loving family, and others have been less fortunate. We live in a world that tells us that we are merely 'products' of the environment we have been brought up in, and that we don't have any real ability to change what we are, and the hand we have been dealt in life. I have found this teaching to be false in the extreme, and denying the fundamental principle of personal accountability and choice.
Each one of us will have challenges throughout our lives, and many of them may seem to be insurmountable at the time, but when you bring God into the equation then 'all things are possible'. I heard someone once say 'Man can change his mind but only God can change a heart', and this I have found to be true. The things that seem impossible to man, God can do 'in the twinkling of an eye'.
Some may think 'I would like to become a fantastic loving dad, but I was not brought up like that and these concepts are foreign to me'. To those men I would say that experience has shown that if you really desire to become that type of father to your children and if you will reach out to God and ask Him to bring the change in your heart, you can indeed become all that you hope for.
Even if your family may have never have showed you the love and encouragement that you really needed in life, you can still become 'a trailblazer' in your own family and choose the direction you want to go in life. We as fathers have the authority and the ability with God's help to choose to have a loving and wonderful family, and to ensure that our children follow the trail that we have made.
Definitions of trailblazer:- someone who marks a trail by leaving blazes on trees- a pioneer : someone who helps to open up a new line of research or technology or art
Some of us will need to be trailblazers in our family, to change from the direction our predecessors chose and make a new trail for our own family to follow. Being a pioneer has many challenges but the rewards of your decision will reverberate into future generations and they will thank you for it.
Dads' Call To Action:
Believe that God is able to finish that which He began, and this includes helping you to build a wonderful family
(1 Samuel 10 v 9)
So it was, when he had turned his back to go from Samuel, that God gave him another heart; and all those signs came to pass that day.