It is important for us as men and fathers to pass onto our children the values and beliefs that we ourselves live by. Although our children will eventually make up their own minds as to whether our values are relevant to them as adults, it is vital that we instil in them a moral compass as to what is right and wrong in life.
When fathers impart values and truths to their children it lays down a path for them to follow and a framework that they can build upon personally.
Throughout our own lives we learn many lessons as men, things we were glad we did and things we wished we had avoided as well. Passing on our own experience to our children can help them avoid many of the pitfalls that await the unwary traveller on the path of life. Lessons like not always trusting everything that people say is true, and that some people want to take advantage of them in life. But also that there are many good people in the world and they need to develop the ability to distinguish clearly between them.
Teaching our children about the value of honesty and kindness, and the ability we each have either to help or hinder our fellow human beings.
Teaching them about the power of both giving and receiving forgiveness in life will help them immeasurably as it enables them to be successful in interpersonal relationships.
Teaching them that for love to be sustainable it needs to be based on commitment and not merely on emotion.
Teaching our children to be generous of heart by giving to those less fortunate than themselves opens up many opportunities in life when they will also be able to receive from the generosity of others.
Teaching our children the value of study and getting a good education will open up many doors to success in life.
Teaching them the importance of having a healthy diet and exercising often will give them a better chance at living a long and enjoyable life.
Having the strength to stand up against injustice and working toward making our planet a better place for all to live will give them stature and influence in their community.
The list of things we desire to teach and impart to our children may vary according to the principles we ourselves hold dear, but we as fathers have tremendous ability to influence them for good. There are many voices in the world calling out to our children. some shine bright like diamonds but have a poisonous sting in the tail and our children are naive as to the real dangers out there.
As always the most effective way to impart our values and beliefs to our children is through our own life example. As we live our lives our children are watching and learning, and although none of us do it perfectly we should as a father strive to be the best person we can be. Our example as fathers has a profound effect on our children and they often choose to follow in our footsteps.
Passing on our own experience to our children can help them avoid many of the pitfalls that await the unwary traveller on the path of life.
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