What is Marriage really? I have heard it said on numerous occasions by the younger generation “it’s just a piece of paper”, and therefore by extension ‘not worth doing’. With so many people these days seeming to ‘opt out’ of the institution of traditional marriage, I thought it may be beneficial to explore some reasons why it may be advantageous for them to reconsider their stance on marriage.”
But what are the real benefits of marriage as opposed to other lifestyle choices? Without doubt one of the most effective parenting tips I can give you is to seriously consider the benefits that marriage brings to a family. What follows are 5 simple but powerful reasons that sets traditional marriage apart.
Marriage instituted by God
And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
As soon as God created Eve from one of Adams ribs He ordained that their union should be permanent, this was a natural reflection of a spiritual truth. Through the physical consummation of marriage Adam and Eve’s union was already permanent spiritually speaking. Through ‘marriage’ God set in place a principle that laid a foundation for life on earth, a principle that would enable mankind to increase and prosper. Marriage between a man and a woman is the only physical relationship that has God’s seal of approval.
Marriage is a vow before God
When you make a vow to God, do not delay paying it; For He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you have vowed—
Everything we do in life is done in the sight of God. Marriage is first and foremost a vow that we make as a man in the sight of our creator and by choosing marriage we are following the principle that God set in motion. We also recognise and accept that as a father and the head of our home, we will have to give an account to God about how we conducted our self in our marriage.
As the leader of the home we are expected to rule wisely and with compassion and mercy, showing God’s love to our wife and family. It is from God our heavenly Father that we must glean the wisdom and grace to become the best husband we can be; therefore, it is vital that we continue to grow in our personal relationship with Him daily.
Marriage is a vow between a husband and wife
“For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”
As we stand before the minister performing the marriage ceremony as a couple we are declaring a solemn vow to love and care for each other for the rest of our lives. This vow entails laying down our own selfish desires to ensure that our spouse is put first in every aspect of life. When both Husband and Wife commit to this life of selflessness they give their marriage every opportunity to prosper and grow throughout their lifetime together.
Marriage is the foundation of family
So, God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it"
Marriage is God’s way of establishing a sure foundation for ‘family’ to grow and prosper in the earth. A married couple who love and are fully committed to each other are the perfect environment for bringing up children. Within the safe confines of ‘marriage’ children grow up feeling secure and loved, knowing that ‘Daddy and Mommy love each other too!’
Family is the foundation of society
But the mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting On those who fear Him, And His righteousness to children’s children, To such as keep His covenant, And to those who remember His commandments to do them.
Even as ‘Marriage’ is the surest foundation for ‘Family’, so ‘Family’ is the surest foundation for ‘Society’. The stronger each individual marriage is, the stronger ‘society’ is. Every builder knows how important a strong and stable foundation is when they are constructing a house, if the foundation is strong then the house can stand the test of time. So many of the problems we face in ‘society’ today stem from the fact that the family unit has broken down, and that often occurs as a result of a marriage that has broken down.
Traditional marriage as set out by God in the Bible has a blessing and an empowerment from Heaven to be successful and fruitful. It has been instituted by God as a foundation for ‘the family unit’ on earth, a foundation that enables it to prosper. As individual families prosper so our society prospers, and we all reap the benefits of that stability.
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